teach your children well
We all would like to change the world, but for the most part we don;t really even try. Why? Because all our lives we have n-been told “you can;t fight City Hall” or “one person really can’t make a difference.”
But it is not true! We tend to have a belief that changing the world would take some monumental effort or could only be accomplished after a lengthy process. It is not true – YOU CAN CHANGE THE WORLD TODAY! By doing one simple thing you can change the world around you and if a bunch of us take this seriously the effect that will take place will be Earth shattering, and tomorrow will be an even better time to be alive than today.
Now here is the thing – you need to go out and do this immediately, and you need to find a way to remind yourself and others to keep doing it and as Dr. Seuss said: “Oh the places you’ll go!”
Are troubled children an accident? Or is our unthinking behavior creating the problems of today? Anyone that knows me personally, knows that I love movies. I am a big fan of powerful images, action packed thrillers, and special effects, while still loving inspirational cinema such as Courageous.
Troubled Children: Careless Parents
A couple of days ago I took my two grandsons (14 and 16) to see The Dark Knight Rises, and to be perfectly honest – I really enjoyed it. As a matter of fact I have enjoyed the entire trilogy. I must admit that it bothers me that some things seem to be acceptable in a PG – 13 movie that would not have been when my children were teens, or at all when I was a teenager myself. But that is another story.
I went with my teenage grandsons because they are (I think) reasonably well adapted, intelligent boys who are able to differentiate between what is and is not acceptable, and between movie fiction and real life. I may be kidding myself here, I don’t know.
The thing that really bothered me was the large number of children attending the movie that were well under thirteen. This is a loud fairly high action film with some language and lots of oh ‘so cool’ violence. There were at least two babies (you know – can’t walk yet, cry at loud noises, etc.) present and I would estimate a minimum of thirty children below the age of ten. You may say, so what? It is up to the parents how they raise their kids. And I agree. But I feel very strongly that the vast majority of those parents are unconsciously creating potential monsters.
Which of the pictured can be considered troubled children? All of them. The bully, the victim, the conspirator, the confidant: all of these behaviors are representative of relationship difficulties. But, how does this happen? Are any of these youths born as they are? Is it like the movie The Bad Seed where the titled representative of today’s troubled children apparently was evil from birth?
Troubled Children: Thoughtless Adults
We do so much without thinking it through. We often tell our teenagers to think about the possible consequences of their actions before they do things. If you read Sean Covey’s great book The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make: A Guide for Teens (and I strongly urge you to do just that) you will be reminded of the temptations of the teens years and the life – long effects some decisions will have.
Now, you may be wondering why I am bringing this up now. Well, yet another study has been published detailing a Direct link between what kids watch, do.
This is not the first and I am sure that it will not be the last. The study declares that “Movies appear to fundamentally influence personality.” Do you get that? The things our kids see, whether in the movies, at home, in school or the news is a contributing cause to the high incidence of troubled children in our society. If you take a minute and read the article linked above you will see that the main focus of the study was regarding sexual behavior. But it is kind of like advertising: it either works or it doesn’t, period. If a movie affects a youth’s attitude about sexual behavior, will it not also affect how that youth feels about violence? Read it carefully and decide for yourself if a little ‘content control’ can help you aviod the unnecessary struggles brought about in a family with troubled children.
You see, I believe what I was taught many years ago. Guns don’t kill people, people kill people. On 9-11 were any guns needed?
Or take it a step further. In the aftermath of The Dark Knight Rises shooting there is much talk about AK-47s, even by our President. And yet since his AK-47 jammed, it was the other weapons the shooter brought to bear that caused the tragedy. Yes, it was a tragedy, but the sickness was in the person, not his method.
All those kids at the movie with me, watching brutality, some of it by the “good guys,” what goes on in their subconscious mind? No one knows for sure. But we do know, fro studies and from life: that whatever you experience over and over, you become numb to. Witness enough of anything and at least some percentage will then think it is nothing to do it themselves.
It is time for us to wake up, or the things that we do unthinking may be the death of us all. Without a doubt, troubled children become troubled adults: people who live lives filled with anxiety and who create myriad problems in the world they are a part of.