Parenting Ideas That Work
Parenting ideas these days include a worldly philosophy of anything goes. Teens are often taught that there is no such thing as right and wrong, what some call ‘conditional ethics’ or ‘moral relativism’ meaning that we can each decide what is right for ourselves. Frankly, I don’t think much of that as a way of life, and even less of it as a worldview.
But are not here to discuss worldview or way of life. This is about bringing out the best in our youth, about creating in the next generation great people, individuals who make a positive difference in the world, not only because of what they do but because of who they are. And this will only happen if we are able to show them that (as grandma’s parenting ideas said) “you can do anything in life that you really set your mind to do.”
My parenting ideas are not revolutionary. They are, in fact based on tried and true methods combined with common sense, an understanding of human motivation, and a firm belief in cause and effect. Have you ever watched the TV show Supernanny? If you haven’t, the star (Supernanny) goes into homes teaching parenting ideas about family dynamics and how to deal with disruptive children in situations from mealtime tantrums and sibling squabbles to terrible travel and bedtime brawls. And one thing that always comes out in the end: to stop the difficulties, she helps the adults change and that begins to change the children’s behavior.
Isn’t that amazing? Not really. Every child is an individual miracle and is indeed completely unique. BUT, up until the age of about 10 years old, family in general and parents in particular exert overwhelming influence – virtually creating who this new person is (or at least how they act) up to this point. In other words, until each of us takes control of who we are, or until those that influence us change, the parenting ideas in our household shape and mold our behavior.
Controversial Parenting Ideas?
You will not find a load of psychobabble theory, only tested real world plans that will work if you work them. Thin, weak, generic stuff won’t do it. Weak parenting ideas and methods raise weak children or abusers who have learned they can run roughshod over people using weak methods. Are the thoughts you will find here controversial? To some….but are they right? You be the judge.
We all would like to change the world, but for the most part we don;t really even try. Why? Because all our lives we have n-been told “you can;t fight City Hall” or “one person really can’t make a difference.”
But it is not true! We tend to have a belief that changing the world would take some monumental effort or could only be accomplished after a lengthy process. It is not true – YOU CAN CHANGE THE WORLD TODAY! By doing one simple thing you can change the world around you and if a bunch of us take this seriously the effect that will take place will be Earth shattering, and tomorrow will be an even better time to be alive than today.
Now here is the thing – you need to go out and do this immediately, and you need to find a way to remind yourself and others to keep doing it and as Dr. Seuss said: “Oh the places you’ll go!”
I am not necessarily a fan of most media stars, I believe that their lifestyles tend to lead them down the wrong path and end up degrading them. Yet many of them, when they recall where they came from and what it took to achieve their success offer teaching points we all need to hear.
Ashton Kutcher is very popular with young people today and in this acceptance speech at the Teen Choice Awards August 2013, he makes some points we can all learn by.
This post originally appeared on Student of Winning.